Dear Henry,
My parent plan ”match wedding’’. I oppose. Please advice. So trouble.

Alecia

The Reply
Dear Alecia,
Match wedding had been around for centuries. It came to Guyana when East Indians came as indentured labourers. It was predominant in their culture. But it is a dying norm. Parents deserve the right to choose for you. But you do not have to accept. You have the in alienated right to make your own choice.

But in these sensitive family affairs, compromise can be reached. Discuss their choice. Meet the guy. Perhaps the chemistry will kick in. Parents do have the, maturity to know a good person. They check his family background, his way of life. His health, education and morality. They want the best for you.
But teen today accept their right to choose but it is not the compatible person. Most times the eyes make the choice-his\her personality. But that is not all for life partnership. Look can be deceive and fade. The inner person that counts. His\her virtues and attributes.

A relationship must be founded on strong moral values. Too often the choice is shallow. Dissatisfaction follow and the marriage goes on ‘’the rock’’. More lust than love. So talk it over with your parents . Often they are right. Perhaps introduce your choice or the type of person you have in mind. Many couple respect their parent wish and marriage last. But you have the final . Good luck.

Uncle Henry