I AM 18. My ex-boyfriend and I met seven years ago. We did everything together, but there was no mutual attraction until two years ago, when he revealed he had feelings for me. I did not feel attracted to him in any way; I only viewed him as a friend or brother. However, he didn’t give up on me and kept trying. This past year, something changed, and I viewed him differently. I realized I did have feelings for him, and after awhile, we began a relationship.
At first, the relationship was wonderful and amazing; I guess it was the “honeymoon” period. Then things went sour as we focused more on a sexual relationship, rather than a personal one. We fought a lot about small things. Another stressor was that in six months, we were going to be moving three hours away from each other.
Distance was not a problem for me, as I believe love conquers all.
Moving on, months passed, and our relationship continued. A month ago to this day, he broke up with me, asking if we could just be friends. I tried moving on; I tried ignoring him; I tried praying, but nothing seemed to help.
I thought by now I wouldn’t still have feelings for him, but I can’t make them go away. I think I’m okay until I see him in person, and then all the feelings come back. I know I probably haven’t been smart about this, as I continued to text him and call him, and at some points, even begged for another chance.
He says he still loves me, and there is still an attraction there, but he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship again; nor does he desire to try. He thinks we can go back to being “best friends” like nothing ever happened.
I want to be friends, but it is too hard. I don’t know what to do. I just feel if someone loves you as much as I do him, you shouldn’t let go of that. What should I do? Ignore him? Move on?
At first, the relationship was wonderful and amazing; I guess it was the “honeymoon” period. Then things went sour as we focused more on a sexual relationship, rather than a personal one. We fought a lot about small things. Another stressor was that in six months, we were going to be moving three hours away from each other.
Distance was not a problem for me, as I believe love conquers all.
Moving on, months passed, and our relationship continued. A month ago to this day, he broke up with me, asking if we could just be friends. I tried moving on; I tried ignoring him; I tried praying, but nothing seemed to help.
I thought by now I wouldn’t still have feelings for him, but I can’t make them go away. I think I’m okay until I see him in person, and then all the feelings come back. I know I probably haven’t been smart about this, as I continued to text him and call him, and at some points, even begged for another chance.
He says he still loves me, and there is still an attraction there, but he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship again; nor does he desire to try. He thinks we can go back to being “best friends” like nothing ever happened.
I want to be friends, but it is too hard. I don’t know what to do. I just feel if someone loves you as much as I do him, you shouldn’t let go of that. What should I do? Ignore him? Move on?