In 1527, the Spanish conquistador, Pizarro, drew a line in the sand and dared men to follow him. Pizarro tempted them with the promise of riches, and that is what allowed him to plunder Peru. Your boyfriend got you to cross not one line, but two. The first line was the one that told you: He is my friend, more like a brother to me. Having him as a boyfriend would be way too weird.
 
The second line was sex. When a woman has sex with a man, especially if it’s her first time, her physiology tells her it’s love. But often, it’s just sex. He pushed you across the line in which you had no interest in him, and the line of intimacy which made you think, ‘This must be love.’
 
Now he wants to go back to being friends. He may even have a little revulsion; the revulsion of having sex with someone who is more like a sister to him. So he tells you, ‘Erase, erase.’
 
There was nothing for him to lose by saying, ‘C’mon, c’mon, c’mon.’ But that’s when you should have said no. Many women go through this with the man who badgers and badgers and wears them down.
 
About the rightwing pundit, Rush Limbaugh, an acquaintance of ours once said, ‘You listen to him long enough, and he starts making sense.’ Of course. You listen to anything long enough, and it wears you down; you start to believe.
 
When a guy keeps making you say ‘no’, it means he doesn’t respect your ‘no’. You should be angry he could do this to you, and then want things to be as they were. When others get us to cross a line, it’s usually to do something we know we shouldn’t.