I WRITE from Mexico City, and my story is a little sad. I was married four-and-a-half years before I caught my wife cheating with her ex-boyfriend. I have absolutely no family, and am a recovering alcoholic, almost 11 years sober. I lost everything to my alcoholism before putting my life back together.
It was very hard to stop drinking, so I followed all the rules. I never cheated, and never missed a day’s work. I gave my wife all my salary. I took her to Europe, New York and Vegas. I bought her watches, jewellery, clothes and a car.
I met my wife through her sister, an addict I was sponsoring. One time while we were dating, she sent me an instant message intended for her sister. The message was she was seeing another man, but told me she was going to the dentist.
Out of love for her and my deep, deep necessity to be loved, I forgave her. I kept telling myself, ‘No, she is different from her family.’ I gave this girl my whole life and heart on a silver platter.
In Mexico, it is unfortunately common that some people try ‘spells’ to get things going their way. While my wife was on a trip, I opened the fridge and saw small containers with water. One of them was broken, so I took it out and found my name written on it.
It was in my wife’s handwriting. This is a spell used to get a person out of your life. It means you want to ‘freeze’ them in order to stop them from making money or staying healthy. It’s a very nasty spell.
When my wife returned home, I confronted her. She made excuses like: ‘You forced me into being unfaithful.’ Now three months after the divorce, I feel I was cheated out of everything in life; everything they taught me in recovery about living well and being a good human being.
I have not forgiven her, and still hold revengeful thoughts. Most importantly, I want to know how she is going to pay for what she’s done.