A Berbice woman’s journey from domestic strife to agricultural life

NESTLED just offshore of the Berbice River lies Fort Ordinance, a community that embodies the Guyanese values of resilience, struggle, and an unrelenting sense of hope. The Pepperpot Magazine ventured into the community this week and sat down to hear the story of Leilamattie Ramdeen, affectionately known as Leila, whose life journey embodies the unyielding spirit that Guyanese are known for. As a long-standing figure within this tight-knit community, Leila opened up about her life’s journey, marked by its significant trials and triumphs since settling in Fort Ordinance almost a decade ago.

Born and raised in the broader Berbice area, Leila’s relocation to Fort Ordinance began a new chapter. The initial stages of both the move and her marriage were well-lived. She reminisced on the happiness and admiration she felt upon first entering the community and the new sphere of married life. However, the tranquillity was short-lived as Leila faced domestic challenges that tested her strength and resolve. She candidly shared the trials of her abusive marriage, emphasising the struggle she faced in holding her family together. Despite efforts through counselling and sheer will, the relationship ultimately could not withstand the turmoil, leading to separation just a few short years after they arrived in Fort Ordinance.

The dissolution of her marriage left Leila in a precarious position, tasked with the sole responsibility for her four children: two sons and two daughters. Amidst adversity, Leila’s focus never wavered from what was always her primary responsibility: her children. She explained that in difficult times, she drew strength, particularly from her daughters, with one about to enter secondary school. Leila had established herself as a talented cook in New Amsterdam, earning recognition and opening a shop in the community. This small-scale entrepreneurial venture created stability and provided for the family until an unforeseen accident altered her path dramatically.

Two and a half years ago, a routine trip to the market took a disastrous turn when a car door was flung open, resulting in a severe injury to Leila’s hand. This incident was more than a physical setback; it represented a significant hurdle to her livelihood. Moreover, Leila shared how the incident intensified the challenges faced by her family. Leila described this period as causing a profound shift in her life’s focus. She aimed to improve her health and recovery.

Leila’s challenges resonate with many. Her positive outlook and insistence to keep going are values women and mothers everywhere can relate to. Despite the increasing difficulty of daily tasks with age, she remains steadfast, awaiting a critical visit to the New Amsterdam hospital with a blend of hope and determination. “I already packed my bag and waiting for the call and stuff to go in the hospital,” Leila remarked, exemplifying her readiness to confront whatever lies ahead.

In her pursuit of sustenance and providing for her family, Leila has embraced agriculture and animal rearing, introducing somewhat of a new chapter in her life. The transition to farming and nurturing animals, including goats and a diverse array of birds. Most of her day are spent among plants and animals. She explained the change as having provided her with a sense of purpose and enriched the quality of her life.

Leila’s personal struggle encapsulates the essence of community support, resilience, and the indomitable nature of the human spirit. Her declaration, “I’m not giving up. I’m just keep trusting, and I’m going to come through safe,” resonates as a powerful testament to her character. Her journey is a vivid illustration of how adversity can give rise to transformation, leading to newfound passions and pursuits.

Fort Ordinance, with its backdrop of shared experiences and mutual support, exemplifies how collective resilience can uplift individuals facing personal challenges. She spoke about her experiences with the community and the importance of her relationship with her neighbours. Through her engagement in agriculture and animal care, Leila has found a means of sustenance and sees it as having therapeutic qualities.

Although not at her very best, Leila’s love for her community is unfaltering. She explained that despite the challenges she faced, Fort Ordinance has been a good place to call home. Her journey living in Fort Ordinance has been almost transformative, says Leila. She came into the community with very different hopes and aspirations than she does today. As Leila continues to navigate life’s challenges and opportunities, her story remains a beacon of inspiration. Through her experiences, we are reminded of the capacity for renewal and growth within us all, underscored by the profound impact of community and the resilience of the human spirit. When asked about her driving force and motivation, Leila shared that she forged forward simply because she needed to, and she is certainly happy she did.