Women are increasingly reverting to medieval times when a man’s attractiveness was based on his ability to provide. Back then meant that he was physically capable and possessed superior hunting skills. Today, it means above par financial prospects, i.e. a good education/job with the ability to become rich or already rich. Several studies which can be found through a few clicks on Google attest to this not so startling trend that has been on the increase over the past few decades.It is absurd that a woman looks for a man to provide for her. Women often say: “This is reality. I need to find a man with education, ambition and goals because love won’t pay the bills.” This is very disturbing and what does it say about us as an evolved species? Why should someone else provide for you when you are perfectly capable of doing so on your own? If a man said that he’s out looking for someone with education, ambition and goals because love won’t pay the bills then you’d laugh in his face.
What gives a woman the inherent right to be the one provided for especially in this modern age? What women need to do is to educate themselves, have their own goals and ambitions so they can provide for themselves. Gender roles are ever changing and women are becoming increasingly independent. So why then should women revert to the stereo type of finding a man with money? Aren’t relationships supposed to be encompassed by feelings? When I think of a relationship, words like love, respect, trust, friendship, admiration and compatibility come to mind; not what’s in our bank accounts. Involving money, which it is said the love of which is the root of all evil, at the helm of a relationship simply taints it.
Women who marry for money instead of love tend to be betrayed more often than not. Wealthy men have a taste for younger women and usually despise monogamy. If a woman didn’t get married for love, she got married for financial security. If a man didn’t get married for love, he got married for her beauty. It therefore goes without saying that when that beauty fades – and it will, he will betray his wife by having an/several extra-marital affairs, which so many claim to be the worst kind of betrayal.
Some women even find themselves victim of physical, verbal, psychological and emotional abuse. Some suffer through this abuse for years, stricken by fear of financial depravity if they leave. So what good is it to be provided for by someone else?
No doubt a woman faces tremendous differences in rights among other facets of inequality compared to men but if she intends to truly be equal then she needs to remove herself from that pedestal of being provided for.
We pride ourselves as being socially sophisticated creatures but we resort to un-evolved and superficial behaviour when it comes to choosing a mate and engaging in long-term relationships.
Written By Mario Joseph