I’VE been married 10 months. My husband is a nice guy; sometimes short-tempered, but it doesn’t bother me. Ours was an arranged marriage. I thought that as time went by, I would start falling for him; but to date, nothing has happened. He’s a good person, and says he loves me, but I feel no attraction toward him, and don’t feel like getting physical. When we kiss, I feel nothing; my heart is not in this marriage. I am sure I want a divorce, yet I don’t want him to get hurt.

But staying because I don’t want to hurt him is not a good enough reason to continue. Faking it through life, I will hurt myself as well as him. I want to confront him, but first I want to understand why I don’t feel the way he feels about me?
Ria 

Ria, 
In an arranged marriage, how much of the way either person acts is honest? How much is role-playing, putting on a good face, going along with the game, or making the best of circumstances?
We don’t believe in sticking two people together without love. A woman isn’t a brood mare; you can’t bring just any stallion to her; we are better than that. We are human; not oxen. A marriage where two people are yoked without love is no marriage at all.
You ask why you don’t love him. A better question is: Why would you? Have you ever had a guy like you, and you didn’t like him back? It’s the same thing.
Perhaps your husband is going along with tradition. Perhaps he feels he got the better end of the deal. Perhaps, like some men, close enough is good enough for him.
But playing along with the gag will damage you both more than divorce.
Wayne & Tamara