Some of you are confusing vanity with decorum, and humility with respect. I’m not a fan of false modesty but I am also not a fan of pompousness, delusions of grandeur and a disregard for civility.
Some believe that caring for their appearance is vanity, narcissism and selfishness. The same people believe that burdening others with their problems and personal issues will earn them sympathy.
Do you know it’s rude and impolite to relay your trials to others, especially when it’s something that has absolutely nothing to do with the individual, or if the resolution to the problem is not benefiting anyone but you?
Candide said “Il faut cultiver notre jardin,” which is French for “we must cultivate our own garden.”
I’ve noticed a culture being cultivated in Guyana where people (especially women) are comfortable asking for what they want instead of working for it.
Women feel guilty about getting the house they want, the shoes they want, or for things they don’t want like marriage, children and happiness. Societal assumptions are that those women who look good should be married, and having babies; that the purpose of dressing is for the attention of men.
And so the assumption is that women who go the extra mile and add makeup to their dressing routine are using their time inappropriately for selfish endeavours. Any woman who attempts to look flawless and perfect, is often judged as an attention seeker; however, it’s nothing but good manners. And the benevolence of manners has been skewed into rape culture to satisfy misogynistic behaviours and endeavours.
Showing that we can first take care of ourselves proves that we are fully capable of helping others. It’s imperative that we take better care of ourselves, or at least try our best, no matter the circumstances.