– don’t feel bad about the boots that don’t fit, just keep looking for the ones that do

Dear Wayne & Tamara,

My girlfriend and I broke up a week ago. She claimed she was unhappy with herself and didn’t want to drag me down while she tried to find happiness within. She also said she wasn’t saying it’s over for good, but she thinks the breakup may help her break down the wall she has from past relationships.

She is the first woman I have dated with a child, a child who after four months has grown on me. Her daughter even called me dad.

We have many shared interests and a healthy amount of opposing interests.
I did all I could to show I cared. I drove 20 miles to her house four or five times a week. I had to get up an hour early for work when I was there.

Is her excuse legitimate, or is there more she isn’t telling?

Liam

Dear Liam,
She gave you the “it isn’t you, it’s me” speech. It doesn’t matter why you don’t fit together. She feels you don’t fit together and what she feels is her reality.

The only thing she did wrong was to suggest there will be a future. Some women do that because they think it is an easier way to let a man down.
But four months is a good test run. At four months you both should be feeling it, and she isn’t.

You don’t feel bad about the boots that don’t fit. You keep looking for the ones that do. For someone else you can be perfect. For her, you are not.

Wayne & Tamara