EVERY time my boyfriend and I have problems, he cheats. The thing is, he tries to tell me it’s my fault, because he doesn’t feel I love him. The last time he cheated, he swore he wouldn’t do it again, but I learned he did it almost immediately afterward.

For some reason, I can’t get past this. I can’t even stand for him to touch me. Oh, and I should mention he had unprotected sex with this woman.
Tara

Tara,
In England, there are two kinds of lawyers: Solicitors and barristers. Solicitors talk to clients and research cases, while barristers argue those cases in court.

There is a famous story about a barrister who never prepared in advance for trials. One day, he arrived in the courtroom and opened the folder from the solicitor. In the file, he found nothing but a small note. It read: “You have no case. Abuse the plaintiff.”

Why does your boyfriend blame you for his cheating? Because nothing he says can make what he did right, and he knows it. The oldest strategy of the cheater is to blame the victim for their own actions.

Take a tip from job interviewers. They know past behaviour is the best predictor of future behaviour. If you want a different future, he belongs in your past.
Wayne & Tamara