Boys don’t grow up dreaming of their wedding day. Girls do. So it might seem odd the groom is digging in his heels, but there is an obvious explanation. Somehow, perhaps because the bride does not have a church of her own, this has become the groom’s wedding. It will be in his town, in his church, with his friends. It needs to fit his people. Once the wedding became his, it needed to be done his way. At least that’s what he feels.

He wants the venue to be correct for the people who will be there, and his mistake was telling your daughter she has a choice. Now she needs to ask him whose decision this is. If he says no to the country club, they can work from that point. They can discuss why each wants a different venue, and whether their differences are greater than their love.