I AM IN a long-distance relationship with a woman, and we see each other nine or ten times a month when she comes to my city for work. We are madly in love with each other, and she has made plans to move closer to me.
When we met, we became lovers first, and now are exclusive and serious. However, the problem is she has a lot of old boyfriends, dating buddies, and sex-chat friends that still call, email, and text. I have seen messages which ask for sexual favours as if she is a working girl.

She says she no longer sex chats with these guys, and they are just friends now. I do not believe it. I fear she is going to continue with this sex chatting and see these guys again. She refuses to discuss or explain any more than: “You have nothing to worry about.” Yet I worry. What should I do?
Colin

Colin,
Let’s assume the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. You walked into her restaurant and realised she has cooked for lots of other men. You found the cooking tasty, but you know many guys might want another one of her meals.
You don’t think she is making it clear enough she will no longer cook for them. That is where your minds diverge. You believe she should make it perfectly clear, and she knows if she made it perfectly clear, they wouldn’t still be hanging around the restaurant.

The hitch is: You are looking for a home cook, and that isn’t on her menu.
Wayne & Tamara