—a path to withstanding adversity
IN life, there will be challenges. I’ve frequently mentioned the yin-yang theory to highlight that we cannot endure good things in life without “bad” ones happening as well. It’s just the way things are. There will be adversity, whether it be sickness, death, or financial loss. How, then, do we overcome them? A key to overcoming adversity is the ability to be resilient. People often talk about the “bounce back” from challenges. That very phrase is what is used to describe the act of resilience. In science, a “resilient” material can return to its original shape or state after being stretched, bent or twisted. Similarly, a resilient human being can remain flexible. Resilience refers to the act or process and the successful outcome of dealing with a challenge or difficulty.

The American Psychology Association recognises it and states that it is the mental, behavioural or emotional ability to be adaptive to internal or external factors. Being resilient does not happen on its own. You need a strong set of skills and motivation to do so. Resilient person are able to confront life’s challenges, and they find solutions and pathways to help them do so. They do not turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms such as drug use to help. Even if you do not have this trait, I am here to tell you that resiliency can be developed over time. Perhaps the most important factor is social support. You cannot try to cope in isolation; it would not be fruitful. Social support allows you to share, gain insight, and feel connected in times of crisis.
You should also try to refrain from negative thoughts, even if that is easier said than done. Don’t focus on what cannot be changed or the bygones. Don’t dwell on the negative outcomes. Being resilient allows you to become more focused and stay on track with goals and achievements. Resilient people seldom blame themselves for failure. Instead, they learn the lessons and work again towards achieving a better result. I hope this encourages you to take this opportunity to learn more about how to become resilient in everything that you do, and if you already are, keep on adding skills and improving. Resiliency impacts every aspect of your life—from your family life, career and schooling. In a world filled with challenges, we need more resilient people. I hope you consider this in everything you do.