Dear Wayne & Tamara,
My best friend of 20 years and I, and our wives, went to a bar last weekend. As the night went on my friend’s wife flirted with me, nothing out of the ordinary. The thing is, at the end of the night she kissed me passionately and I liked it.
I’ve had a crush on her longer than I’ve known my wife. I can’t stop thinking about it, but I don’t want to mess up our lives.
Perhaps you can’t stop thinking about robbing a bank either. But if you are, what would we suggest? Stop thinking about it! Instead think about prison and all the nice people you’ll meet.
If you love your wife and love the life you have and things are good, that’s what’s real. When you play with what’s in your mind, all that disappears.
It’s a double bad. Try replacing your fantasy with how your wife and your friend will react when they find out you betrayed them.
WAYNE & TAMARA