I have been dating a man for the past four years. I am 53 and he is 56. I divorced six years ago and he was a friend before my marriage. For the last four years we’ve only dated each other.
Many times he’s told me he loves me, but I feel we are not moving past boyfriend and girlfriend. We don’t live together because he says he is not ready for that. He wants to be more financially stable, and he does not want to live with my son, a college student living at home while he gets an education.
When we are together, I go to his house. He almost never comes to mine. I asked if he ever wants to marry me and he says yes, but he doesn’t know when. Why is this not moving toward living together or marriage? Should I continue down this path or move on?

DEBBIE

Debbie,
You are climbing up the ‘down escalator’. You will never get to the top. Stop climbing. Find a man who wants to go in your direction.

WAYNE & TAMARA