I HAVE been going out with a friend of the family for a month. I feel something about him I haven’t felt in a long time. He says he wants a relationship with me, but he isn’t planning on leaving his wife, because he did that once and she asked him to come back. He also told me he cheated on his wife a year ago.
He says he doesn’t love her anymore, and doesn’t really trust women because the woman he cheated with flirted with other men. He says he cares about me, but isn’t in love with me. Even though I know this, I can’t stop thinking about him.
Bethany

Bethany,
You need to ask your family why this skirt-chaser is considered a family friend, because a married man who commits adultery with one woman and proposes it to another is no man for you.
Tell your family what you told us; tell his wife he is hitting on you, and you are sick of it. Tell everyone you know he cheats on his wife, and when he does, he blames the other woman as “untrustworthy.” Take temptation out of your way by making him not want to have anything to do with you.
You are allowing a bad person to assume the superior position in your life, and that is something you should never do. Some people don’t think they deserve good things; that’s the problem you need to focus on with a life coach, therapist or role model who can teach you how to value yourself.
Wayne & Tamara