From the beginning, you’ve had one foot on the dock and one foot in the boat, unable to decide which way to go. He says he loves you and you say nothing. You pussyfoot before moving in, then talk about moving away. Still, you want to make him to blame. If you loved him, this would all be moot. You never dropped anchor in this relationship. That’s what your vacillation signals. Your letter is not from a woman in love, but a woman trying to make a decision based on criteria.

Love just is; everything else is factor-based. Let him cast off and set sail. You two have always been ships passing in the night.