MY HUSBAND and I have been married 12 years and have two kids. He has been asking for a divorce every six months since we got married. He says I don’t treat him right, but I cook, clean, work part-time, and we are together at least two times a week. Four months ago, he again asked for a divorce and went to Reno to get his head straight. From phone records, I found out he was having an emotional affair with a girl he went to school with who lives in Reno. Then I learned he’s been in contact with another ‘ex’ — you know, the one who got away, the true love of his life. Later, I found a message to a third girl that said, ‘Like a fine wine, you grow more beautiful each day.’

He says I am blowing this all out of proportion. He yells at me and calls me every name in the book when we discuss it. He even spat in my face. Am I supposed to forget this all happened because now he wants to work this out?