Grain merchants use long probes to collect samples from different levels of a rail car or truck. They do this to measure the quality of the grain, and to check for toxins. Your husband has collected samples of your marriage every six months and found it rotten. That you haven’t gone to a counsellor, women’s centre, or divorce lawyer after his threats shows how much his ‘sampling’ has damaged you.

You are too good for him and he knows it, so he beats you down. Contact one or more of the three sources we mentioned to escape this rotting relationship.