I’M CURRENTLY dating a woman a few years younger than I who is studying in Europe. I haven’t seen her since August last, but we keep in almost daily touch. She can’t afford to come home this summer, and has been offered a job there.

I told her I didn’t want her to accept, but she needs money to continue her studies. We got into a huge argument over it. Finally, I e-mailed her and told her I would give her the money she needs.

She didn’t ask for money; she never has, but I usually send her something every couple of months. What should I do? Wait for her to contact me, or just send her the funds she requires?

I’ll attach her photo, so you will understand why I don’t want her to go.
Mike

Mike,
Money can buy obligation, but it can also buy contempt. Money can solve a myriad of problems, and money motivates to a certain extent, but it cannot solve all problems, and it is not ownership.

You sent us a photo of a possession. It’s a stunning possession in a bikini, but… where is the love in all this? Where is the connection? You haven’t seen her in almost a year.

The Beatles would tell you, “I don’t care too much for money, money can’t buy me love.” You can’t buy her, and you can’t buy her love.
Wayne & Tamara