Running In Place

For the past six months I’ve had a major crush on a coworker. She is the nicest, most caring person I’ve ever met.To say I am attracted to her personality and physically is an understatement. I cannot stop thinking about her. We sit five feet away from each other so I think about her constantly. We playfully flirt on a daily basis though she flirts with many other men.
She gives me looks I wonder about. I believe she has a small crush on me.
I am single but she has been married 20 years. I am 12 years younger. She has disclosed her frustrations with her husband and thoughts about leaving him, though I cannot see it happening.
For the past month or so this has affected my work. I know 99 percent we will not be together, but I struggle with my tasks at hand. Coworkers keep asking what is wrong.
Garth

Garth, there’s a stock scene in the movies. A frazzled man is coming apart on the battlefield or the boardroom until the hero slaps him and says, “Get a hold of yourself, man!”
Garth, get a hold of yourself!
She’s a married woman, a dozen years older, who flirts with other men and she’s a coworker to boot. You’re right. The odds are 99-1 against.
There’s an unusual word—lalochezia—which refers to the pleasure we get from swearing or saying something vulgar. Lalochezia acts as a safety valve. It relieves psychic pressure. When she complains about her husband that’s all she is doing. Venting.
She is not your problem. Your problem is you don’t have anyone.
Each time you find yourself daydreaming about this married woman, take it as evidence you need to get out there and find single available women to date. Pursue your interests, join a gym, get involved.
If you don’t redirect your attention, you may have another problem. You are pursuing someone unavailable so you can’t have a relationship. That’s a deeper problem.
Wayne & Tamara