“I just want to be the best dad!”
This father Tulsiram Seulall says he is excited about Fathers’ Day 2017 with his son Kian being the new addition to his family. Standing strong beside him is his beautiful wife Padmini (Photo by Adrian Narine)
This father Tulsiram Seulall says he is excited about Fathers’ Day 2017 with his son Kian being the new addition to his family. Standing strong beside him is his beautiful wife Padmini (Photo by Adrian Narine)

THIS is the main goal of 33-year-old Tulsiram Seulall, a first time dad of a 10-month-old boy.
He appears humble but one impressive thing about Seulall is that he understands what he wants, and prepares to accomplish his goals as a family man.
After getting married to Padmini Bissessar at the age of 27, this man received the best surprise of his life on his 32nd birthday. It was a short love note from his beautiful wife saying: ‘Happy Birthday, Daddy!’
“My birthday is actually in November so it was actually a birthday present. I got home from work one day and she wrote the note telling me ‘Happy Birthday Daddy’ so right away that gave me the indication that she’s pregnant. It’s excitement but it’s also thinking about the challenges. I’ve never raised a child before, so you’re wondering ‘Am I going be a good father?’”

Fond memories of his own childhood days with his father were like a blueprint on his face and he seemed confident that the keys to life were already in his hands.
Kian Seulall, his son, is now 10 months old and things are going great! There is hardly a moment when he does not cross his father’s mind, and as many opportunities as he gets, he would make it a moment to bond with his child.
“This Father’s Day will be great for me,” he told Pepperpot Magazine as the reporter sat comfortably in a living room setting at Uitvlugt Sugar Estate’s Conference Hall.
With smiles in between, he reminisced on the times he prepared for his first child.
“I wanted to establish myself first before I started a family because when you start having children you want to be able to provide for them. To get married at 27 and not really settle it becomes really difficult,” he said.

His dad had been his role model, and he followed in his footsteps getting married at the age of 27. But while he became dad at 32, he came into his own father’s life when the man was 30. His parents have two children and he also is planning on adding just one more child to the family.
“Looking at what my parents did with me I was confident that, let’s take it one step at a time. He’s ten months now and I think we’ve done a pretty good job with him so far. My wife is a student but as soon as she is finished studying then we will decide on having the second, because there is so much risk when she reaches that age of 30. It’s not just about going out there and having children, it’s also about health,” he said.

When he thought his life had changed for the better as he felt the movements of his son while the boy was tucked secure in the womb of his wife, the best was yet to come.
“It was exciting. We used to sing to him actually. We’d sing the Barney song – I love you. We wanted him to learn something so in the evening we’d just lie back in bed and we would always sing, read good books, whilst he was in the womb. When he hears our voice you would see him move,” the proud dad smiled as he spoke.

The moments seemed divine when his wife would rest the palms of her hands on her expanded tummy and as the two together sang the child would move. They recorded several of the moments from pre-natal stages so the boy, when he grows, can have a video demonstration on parenting for his own benefit.
During the final stages of the pregnancy his wife took a year’s leave of absence from university and stayed with their child for nine months. Upon her return, Seulall spent his own annual leave bonding with his son and instilling values at an early age.

“I took my five weeks annual leave to spend with him so we could bond. So she went to school since 7:30 a.m. and for the entire day it’s just him and me. The world is changing and I was brought up in a proper way to be a gentleman. I want to do the same for my son (and) teach him the right, not just remember generally how to treat people but to be polite. If I am introducing him to you, if I remember your name I‘d say ‘this is “uncle” or “aunty” so and so’.”

Seulall grew up as a ‘country boy’ at Cotton Tree, West Coast Berbice, and being a gentleman is a signature in his family. He now lives at Cummings Lodge, East Coast Demerara and works at Guysuco’s LaBonne Intention (LBI) office, just villages away.
The close distance between home and work would allow him the additional opportunity to return home at noon to have lunch with his son, whose babysitter is Seulall’s mom. He never wanted to miss a moment but being a provider in the home while his wife finishes off medical school, Seulall enjoys every state, from watching the toddler actually rolling over, to creeping and now holding on, walking around the house. “And you’d see him from time to time let go for a couple of seconds trying to balance, it’s all exciting to see him moving from one step to another.”

Every stage is a refreshing and exciting moment! And what is the best part of being a dad?
“Just taking care of him and seeing that smile on his face. Seeing that smile gives me the best feeling. I just want to be the best dad! I just want to continue to nurture him because (in) three and a half years he’s going to be going to school. So you want to teach him what to expect when he goes out there,” Seulall told Pepperpot Magazine.

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